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Biblical Hospitality

January 10, 2010

… Given to hospitality (Romans 12:13; I Timothy 3:2).

The current idea of hospitality has been limited in our day to the idea of simply entertaining company. This, however, is not the idea being conveyed in the Bible, which carries with it the concept of using our homes as a ministry base to supply the needs of others.

Our word hospital, the root for hospitality, greatly helps us to understand the word better. A hospital is a place where those in need – those who are hurting, wounded and broken – go for aid in healing and recovery. The believer’s home is for more than the modern concept of “entertainment” – it is Heaven’s embassy of ministry, a place of comfort, rest and healing; a haven where weary souls are soothed, refreshed, consoled and calmed.

Interestingly enough, William Tyndale’s Bible translated “given to hospitality” as “diligently to harbor” (Romans 12:13). Now there is a rich, restful word – “harbor.” It is defined as:

a place of security and comfort – Merriam-Webster
any shelter or safe place – Wordsmyth
a place of refuge and comfort and security – Mnemonic
an asylum; a shelter; a place of safety from storms or danger – Webster’s 1828

The believer’s home is to be a place of security, comfort, safety and refuge to those who are hurting. It is a “sane”-asylum from an insane world; a shelter from the dangers of the storms of life – a heavenly respite, a divine breath of air.

Little wonder that the Bible in Basic English translates “given to hospitality” as “ready to take people into your houses.” Hospitality is love-in-action, as can be seen from the first part of Romans 12:13, which instructs its readers as to “distributing to the necessity of the saints.”

Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality (Romans 12:13).

Hospitality must be seen in the light of its context: distributing to necessities. Biblical hospitality, then, is not an act of mere “entertainment,” but rather the divine ministry of reaching out in love to others in need. Hospitality is more than coffee and a doughnut, or a dinner party. It is not a luxury, but a necessity. It will not be learned from Emily Post, Martha Stewart or Rachel Ray. It is learned from the Lord. Hospitality is the spiritual opening of our hearts that then extends to the opening of our lives and homes.

The Greek word for hospitality is philoxenia (Strong’s Greek Lexicon #5384),  which is a compound word: philos (#5384 meaning “dear” or “friendly”) and xenia (#3578 meaning “lodging” – so translated in Philemon :22). This compound word can be translated as “dear or friendly lodging.” It is about someone in need of a friend – and not just a friend, but a place of friendship – a place that is dear.

Just who might be in need of such a dear lodging-place? A single mother and her children; one struggling with addiction or depression; an abused or abandoned spouse; a hurting neighbor; a youth who has lost their way; a financially distraught couple; a desperately grieving widow; a child whose mother works nightshift; a rejected pregnant teenager; a broken-hearted divorcee; a lonely senior citizen; a mentally handicapped youth, etc.

Hospitality is not about the giving of one’s evening to another for “entertainment;” it is about the selfless life of Christ in us, giving of our life, time, home and resources to another in need. It is becoming a vessel of mercy; a conduit of our Father’s great love to those who are hurting.

Clyde L. Pilkington, Jr.
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© 2010


When the Wife Asks for Counsel

March 9, 2009

There are many occasions when a wife is feeling distressed about some difficulty, and she comes to her husband and says, “What should I do?” An abdicating husband will tell her that he does not care and that she can do whatever she wants to do. But when a wife seeks counsel from her husband, she should always receive counsel. When she comes to her husband and asks for a decision, he should always make a decision …

Now a godly husband may decide, after taking his wife’s concerns into account, to do things “her way.” But in a godly home, as soon as he does this, it becomes his decision. He is entirely responsible for it. Once the decision is made, it is his decision.

Douglas Wilson
Reforming Marriage, pages 81-82

Husbandry: What It Means to Be a Husband

March 9, 2009

HUSBANDRY, n. The business of a farmer, comprehending agriculture or tillage of the ground, the raising, managing and fattening of cattle and other domestic animals, the management of the dairy and whatever the land produces.

HUSBAND, v.t. To till; to cultivate with good management. – Noah Webster, American Dictionary of the English Language (1828).

Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement (I Peter 3:6).

Unfortunately, many women are led (if it can be called leading) by men who believe themselves to be nothing more than walking, talking, living, breathing impositions. How many Christian women today … could imagine calling their husband lord with a straight face? Him? But a husband is one who cultivates with authority.

Now it goes without saying that this authority must be exercised by a man with a Christ-like disposition to service. He must not wield his authority in a self-seeking way. But he must wield it; he is a husband. It is tragic that in our culture the word husband is understood as nothing more than a male legally tied (for a few years) to a particular female; but as the etymology of the word should indicate, much more is involved. Husbandry is the careful management of resources – it is stewardship – and when someone undertakes to husband a wife, he must understand that it cannot be done unless he acts with authority.

He must act as though he has a right to be where he is. He is the lord of the garden, and he has been commanded by God to see to it that this garden bears much fruit. This cannot be accomplished by “hanging around” in the garden and being nice. The garden must be managed, and ruled, and kept, and tilled. For many husbands, this is an alien concept; they certainly spend all their time in the garden helping themselves to whatever fruit happens to grow, but they always have the furtive [cautious] look of someone guilty of criminal trespass … They are unsure of their right to be there, and pulling up weeds means that they have assumed responsibility for the state of the garden – he had better not do that. Such abdication [abandonment of ones authority] is an abdication of stewardship; it is the abdication of husbandry. And the wife is frustrated because she has a husband in name, but she does not have a husband.

Some men may object by saying that their wives demand to be left alone. All they are doing is respecting their wives’ wishes. There are two responses to this. One is that whether or not the wife has demanded to be left alone does not alter the fact that Christ has demanded that she not be left alone.

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it (Ephesians 5:25).

The head of the woman is the man, the head of the man is Christ, and Christ has commanded husbands to imitate Him. This necessitates a love which does not walk away, or stand by.

Second, wives need to be led with a firm hand. They will often test their husbands in some area, and be deeply disappointed (and frustrated) if he gives in to her. It is crucial that a husband give his wife what the Bible says she needs, rather than what she says she needs.

So a godly husband is a godly lord. A woman who understands this biblical truth and calls a certain man her husband is also calling him lord [I Peter 3:6]. It is tragic that wholesale abdication on the part of modern men has made the idea of lordship in the home such a laughable thing. A man cannot get by with good intentions. He cannot get by with a pleasant demeanor. He cannot get by with a sweet disposition … In a world of spiritual eunuchs – one who is impotent in his masculinity – it is good to find a man who is more than simply male …

Many Christian men are nice guys, but they do not provide the strength of leadership that God requires and their wives need.

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God (I Corinthians 11:3).

Douglas Wilson
Reforming Marriage, pages 77-80

Suddenly Life Awoke

March 9, 2009

He looked at her. She looked at him. Suddenly life awoke.

Robert Browning (1812-1889)

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