Archive for January 2009

Parental Responsibility

January 25, 2009

Some people look to the church for the care and nurture of their children. They expect the Sunday school or the youth department to be the primary factor in molding the spiritual lives of the young. But this is a fundamental responsibility of parents.

Ed Dobson (with Cal Thomas)
Blinded by Might: Can the Religious Right Save America? (1999) p. 158

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The Meaning of Neighbor

January 25, 2009

The word neighbor in the Scriptures means “near ones.”

Who is nearer to us than the people who make up family – parents, partner, children, and grandchildren?

Peter M. Lord
Bless and Be Blessed (2004), page 133

The Feminist Mistake

January 22, 2009

I hope people will see the feminist movement for what it is – harmful to women …

Feminism discounts every bit of value the Lord has placed on living in relation to Him. It’s a movement that negates the pattern of marriage and the importance of children and men …

The absolutely beautiful thing is how the Lord designed men and women. When He acknowledged Adam’s loneliness, He could have designed anyone as a companion. He could have made another man. But He didn’t. He made a woman. A man and a woman in union with Himself …

Diane Passno
Feminism: Mystique or Mistake? (2000)

The Exploitation of “Family Ministries”

January 22, 2009

There are many able ministries available today which set out to restore Christian family life. It has become a growth industry for professional meddling, both in and out of “the church.” It seems the more they try to help, the worse it becomes. At first, I thought I was imagining this oddity. But after working in the pastoral ministry – inside the veil, so to speak – I came to realize that the clergy exploit unhappy spouses to justify their idleness. It is filled with phone calls, gossip, public appearances and delusions of grandeur.

James Wesley Stivers
Restoring the Foundations: Essays in Relational Theology (1995), page 3

The Husband’s Responsibility for the Wife

January 22, 2009

One of the most difficult things for modern men to understand is how they are responsible for their wives. Men come into a … counseling session with the assumption that “She has her problems, and I have mine,” and the counselor is here to help us split the difference. But the husband is responsible for all the problems. This is the case for no other reason than that he is the husband.

This does not mean the wife has no personal responsibilities as an individual before God. She certainly does, just as her husband has individual responsibilities. They are both private persons who stand before God. But he remains the head, just as Christ as the Head assumed all the responsibility for all the sins of all His people, so the husband is to assume covenant responsibility for the state of his marriage. If a husband says he objects to this because it is not fair to him to be held responsible for the failings of another, he is really saying he objects to the gospel. It was not “fair” for Christ to assume responsibility for our sins either. But while it may not have been fair as we define it, it was nevertheless just and merciful.

Douglas Wilson
Federal Husband (1999), page 12

Husbands Love Your Wives as Christ

January 15, 2009

“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it” (Ephesians 5:25).

Christ loved [the church] with an EFFECTIOUS love; He loved the Church in a way which transformed …

Christ’s love was also an INCARNATIONAL love. The Word did not love the Church from a great distance. Rather He took on the form of a servant and emptied Himself. Christ’s love for His church was literally embodied in His sacrificial life. His love was not measured by what he felt; it was measured by what He accomplished … The love of Christ is defined in terms of what He did …

Christ loved His people with a RESPONSIBLE love. In His loving, He took upon Himself all the sins of His people. These were sins which He had not personally committed and for which we had no right to blame Him. And yet … He assumed responsibility. The ground of our salvation is nothing less that Christ’s assumption of that responsibility.

In the same way, a husband may not be blamed for a particular problem in his marriage. But whether he is at fault or not, he remains responsible. Christ was never to blame for anything that God held Him responsible for, and yet He assumed the responsibility for all our sins …

Lastly, Christ love His people with an INSTRUCTIONAL love. Christ washed His Church with the Word, as should husbands … [The husband] is not told to pile on the information, he is told to wash his wife with the water of the word that He might sanctify and cleanse it” (Ephesians 5:26).

Douglas Wilson
Federal Husband (1999), pages 22-25

A Happy Home

January 15, 2009

Paul magnifies family life … If you want a happy home, find one where Paul’s admonition is heeded, where the husband loves the wife as he loves his own body, and where the wife reverences her husband, and where the children are brought up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

Claude D. Cole
The Gospel Witness


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